Emotional Needs
The emotional needs underneath difficult conversations — what people are reaching for when the conversation gets hard.
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Fairness
Learn how the need for fairness influences communication, accountability, blame, conflict, and emotional connection in relationships and conversations.
Respect
Learn how the need for respect influences communication, conflict, criticism, passive aggression, and emotional connection in relationships and conversations.
Trust
Learn how the need for trust influences communication, conflict, honesty, vulnerability, and emotional connection in relationships and conversations.
Validation
Learn how the need for validation influences communication, emotional connection, conflict, and relationships.
Acceptance
Learn how the need for acceptance influences communication, defensiveness, conflict, and emotional reactions in conversations and relationships.
Safety
Learn how the need for emotional safety influences communication, conflict, defensiveness, stonewalling, and difficult conversations.
Understanding
Learn how the need for understanding influences communication, conflict, defensiveness, and emotional connection in conversations and relationships.
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