Conversation Decoder
Conversation Library
A growing library of plain-language writing on the patterns, needs, fears, and examples behind difficult conversations.
Patterns
45Articles on the hidden communication patterns behind defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, and other recurring sources of conflict.
Needs
7The emotional needs underneath difficult conversations — acceptance, safety, understanding, and more.
Fears
6The hidden fears that quietly shape how people react — criticism, rejection, shame, and more.
Examples
3Real, anonymously shared conversations decoded so the underlying patterns become visible.
Dictionary
8Plain-language definitions of the terms that appear throughout the Library.
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If you’re wondering what may be happening beneath the surface of your own conversation, paste it into Conversation Decoder and explore the hidden fears, emotional needs, communication patterns, and competing interpretations that may be influencing what happened.